D in Temple City, California writes...

Hi Hog,

I recently met this guy and the chemistry was perfect!

When we are together, he talks about planning future dates, is a gentleman and appears to really be into me.

We have a lot in common, both love to laugh, are goal oriented, love to go out and try new adventures, spiritual and family oriented.

After our 1st, 2nd and 3rd date, he would text and call me in between dates.

But lately I don't hear from him. If I shoot him a quick hello via text, he politly answers but he doesn't initiate anymore.

I've met his family already after dating a month and we have not had sex although we have had some awesome makeout sessions.

Has he lost interest, dating someone else or simply too busy to continue dating?

After watching some of your videos, I'm thinking maybe I made him feel as if I wouldn't be a loyal kind of girl? He probably thinks that I flirt with all kinds of guys and perhaps sleep with them.

Of course I don't, but I may have appeared to him like that type of woman and he wanted someone that is not only feminine but a lady, innocent with a little freaky side that is only exposed to him.

As I mentioned we haven't had sex THANK GOD but perhaps he thinks that my flirtatious behavior towards him is what I do to all guys that I meet.

If this is the case, how do I repair what I've done? Should I stop communicating with him and move on and cut my loses or is there something I can do or say to make it right?

- D in Temple City, California

Once a guy puts you in the category of "possibly slutty" it's VERY hard to break out of it. For girls, I suggest you aim for a little too innocent, rather than a little too naughty. You can always get more naughty later on. It's harder to become more innocent.

ATTEMPTING TO BECOME MORE INNOCENT

THE GIRL: Ooh, I've been tickling your balls with my tongue for a month now. But gosh, I've never tongue tickled a man's balls for TWO CONSECUTIVE months. Ooh. You are corrupting me! Next thing you know you'll have me poking FOUR fingers in my poo-ha!

Ewwww! HAHAHAHa :)

Now, did you appear to be an "easy" girl? I'm not there to see your behavior but I find it hard to believe that he thinks that, if you HAVEN'T HAD SEX WITH HIM AFTER A MONTH!!!

Usually girls who are sex-oriented instead of relationship-oriented (and there's nothing wrong with that by the way), are very obvious and they drop big hints to the guy such as, "Hey, you're hot. And right now you're making me gooey." Awwww! hahaha

The only way a guy could REASONABLY think you'd be slutty while not having sex with you is if he learns that you have a reputation for sha-boinking random sailors and congressmen and fruit stand operators.

But if your hunch is correct and he thinks you are having sex with dudes all over the tri-state area and parts of Boliva, then you can put an end to that.

Here's how...

Talk to him. On the phone or in person. Bring up the topic of sex.

Tell him, "Hey, you know you're a really sensual kisser. I could feel your passion through your kiss. You probably know that I was ready to let you make love to me. That's a big deal to me because I haven't had sex in a long time. I know I can come off kinda flirty and it's true, when I'm attracted to a guy I like to be playful, but when...

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- Girls -- and GUYS -- don't jump to any conclusions about yourself until you start seeing a PATTERN.

- If you're just friends with him, then keep your dating options open. Because his hesitation could have nothing to do with you.

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